What Happens with Your Life Once the Seed of Daily Courage is Planted
Today´s story is not mine; it´s a story that my friend decided to share with me, it´s ordinary and yet so powerful; describing how much our lives can transform once we become mindful of daily courage. This is what she wrote:
"When I first heard Katerina talk about daily courage, I was a bit skeptical about it. I thought: "What big words... Is it necessary for personal development to emphasize this aspect so much?" But the idea somehow stayed with me, and I started paying attention to it. Time went on, and I realized very clearly: YES. The attribute called COURAGE runs like the red line through our lives. I had the opportunity to become strongly aware of this in several situations of my life.
I wasn't satisfied with my life; I was struggling with my whole family about the upbringing of our kids. I tried to fit in as much as I only could so that my little girls have good relationships with their grandparents. I accepted their authority, and I tried to fulfill my husband's wishes and make him happy.
I was living the classic scenario:
I´d take kids three times a week to their activities;
I´d cook on a daily basis (like our moms who had everything homemade);
I´d work hard to keep our home tidy;
I´d work in my job and make money because we "have to" go on a lovely holiday, it´s expected of us;
And of course, I have my own hobbies because I need to "relax";
BUT ALL THIS WAS VERY EXHAUSTING!
I had to have the courage to say:
"My dear family, I respect you and your life experience. But this is my way; this is how I want to raise my kids. I´d appreciate your help with it."
"Dear husband, I love you, but my capacity is limited. Sometimes I don't have enough time to devote to you. You have to find your way. Do what the best for you is. I will support you and hope you will support me."
"I don't want to chase myself. I don't need all these activities and hobbies. Sometimes the best I can do for myself is to read a book, sleep or just do nothing. "
"I don't want to compare myself with others. We don't have to live according to their expectations. We can spend our money the way we want."
"I respect my friends´priorities, my family members and colleagues, so why should I be enslaved by their expectations?"
The first time I realized this, it felt like there is a wall I cannot jump over. I couldn't imagine myself saying it to others. When I did it, my voice was trembling, but every next time I felt I was more confident and free of expectations.
However it may sound like a cliché, you DO HAVE TO have the courage to realize WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. It´s easy to live in someone else's shadow, and it hurts to REALIZE that. Every day, I try to live MY life now. It is challenging, but I feel I get more and more freedom with each step I take.
Courage – the red line that runs through our life – is what moves us forward. Thank you, Katerina :-)"
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