Why Do We Need to Trust Life
Basically, we can live our lives either from the place of fear of from the place of trust. It is very interesting once you start observing, where you are and work with it consciously.
Whether you make a decision, perform at your job, talk to your child or do anything else. We are always either in fear or in trust.
Let me share one short real-life story - how things can change when you exchange fear for trust.
This story is about my son. He is 17 now. When he was 16, he had a wild pubescent year. To make the story short, he did not go to school, did not go to his hockey trainings (he is playing hockey on the top level, so it has always been his priority and passion)… and of course he did this all behind our back.
And we were really worried and full of fear. So we started controlling him in a good intentioned effort to get things more under control and help him. That did not work well. He felt bad, we felt bad. And he was not doing what we wanted him to do. Pressure created pressure back. And our hearts were filled with fear and dispair.
So one day, we (me and my husband) were sitting in our kitchen, again speaking about the whole situation. And then it struck us.
What if we still do all the practical things (setting boundaries, saying clearly what is and is not ok, help him see and understand the consequences) and do them with not fear and control BUT with trust. Trust in good endings. Trust that this lesson has an important role in his life as well as in our lives.
And we started an experiment.
We decided we would consciously observe which place we act from. And every time we would catch ourselves in fear, we would take a deep breath, remind ourselves of trust and step into trust.
It may sound weird, but it really worked.
It brought a lot of ease into our lives and guess what? Everything with our son started to get better. It has been a year now and it still works.
So here is my invitation for you: play with it, observe it and whenever you catch yourself in the place where you do not want to be, take a deep conscious breath and change it. It IS possible... :-)
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